From our wedding recaps, some of you might have noticed my dirty little secret: I had nine bridesmaids. When we first got engaged, I thought six sounded like a good number, but after doing the math (two sisters–Nick's and mine + two "baby" cousins + one sorority sister + oldest friend + bff since middle school + bff since high school + bff since spring break 03) the number ended up being nine.
Yes, nine. I avoided mentioning it here on the blog because, well, people judge and most of the time in real life the response was "NINE! NINE!? Geesh, that's a lot." Honestly I was sick of hearing about how that might be a few too many. Who decides these rules? Looking back I wish I'd have stood up for myself a bit more. If there is one thing I do not regret it is asking those nine amazing women to stand up with me while I spoke my vows to Nick. Was it a little hectic gathering up nine women and eight men? Well, yes, but it was worth every minute! I'm the kind of person who makes only a few good friends in her life, but hangs onto them for life, so it was fitting to have all of them participate in our big day. I still speak at least monthly to my best friend since the third grade.
Luckily, Nick's group of guy friends from Purdue/ROTC is huge and really close so he didn't have trouble rounding up guys to be on his side (although we ended up a few short a due to deployment and/or relocation). Since we weren't including any of the Air Force traditions (sword arch, etc.) it made sense to have them all be groomsmen and not leave any of the guys out. The groomsmen doubled as ushers on the day of.
The point of this post is to say: have as big or as small of a wedding party as you want. Your wedding is a reflection of you and your partner, so if having a huge group of friends surrounding is your couple style go for it. If you are more of the intimate type, having one person for each might work.
How many bridesmaids or groomsmen (or bridesmen/groomswomen) did or do you have?
Oh, hi, yes, I am back! Trying to post every day in November so I will actually finish up our wedding recaps before our first anniversary. The clock is ticking!